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Buying Boots for Children: Tips to Make Parents’ Lives Easier – By William F Gabriel

Friday, May 14th, 2010

Taking your kid to go shopping can be one of the most difficult things in the world, especially if your child is the type who easily gets bored and who does not have the patience to walk and fit on shoes all day.

The good news is you do not have to dread shopping time with your kid everytime you need to do it. If you are planning to buy him a pair of boots anytime soon, you would love these tips on how to make life easier for you during times like this.

Tip # 1 – Make sure your kid is full

Do not take a hungry child to a shopping mall if you do not want to hear complains every five minutes or so. Before you leave the house, feed him with a healthy and hearty snack that will keep him full for the next few hours.

Tip # 2 – Do initial window shopping

It would be a good idea to do the first round of shopping yourself. This way, you would be able to narrow down your choices to those that you think your child would like so you do not have to drag him all over the entire mall during the shopping activity.

Tip # 3 – Bring some toys to keep him occupied

Bringing some toys to the mall can be a great idea so that during waiting time (like when you wait for the sizes of the shoes to arrive or you are standing in line to pay), your kid would have something to do other than to keep on bugging you with his eternal question of “Are we done yet?”

Tip # 4 – Keep it short and sweet

All kids have short attention span. This means that while you enjoy an entire day of shopping, your kid does not. So as not to bore him out of his wits, keep the shopping activity to a maximum of one to two hours. If you follow tip # 2, this would not be too difficult to follow.

Tip # 5 – Allow him to make a choice

It is possible that the reason he hates shopping is because he never gets to have a say on anything. To show your kid that his opinion matters, make him choose his own shoes. After all, he is the one who will be wearing these.

Tip # 6 – Bring his old shoes

If all else fails, maybe you should just consider leaving your child at home and bringing his old shoes instead so you can get the right size.

Tip # 7 – Shop online

Another incredible idea of course would be to shop online. Kids love anything that has to do with computers. Shopping online would probably excite him about buying a pair of boots. There are many high quality brands in the online market today.

For example, Harley Davidson boots for kids are widely available in the cyber market. Kids Harley Davidson boots are not only durable and tough, they also come at a reasonable price and in various designs that any kid would love.

Buying a pair of boots for your kid is not difficult if you know other ways on how to go about this chore. Also, if you make it seem fun for the both of you, you and your kid would actually start to look forward to this kind of activities. Do not make it seem boring or tiring. Use this opportunity to bond and spend quality time with your little one.

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Do Parents Cause Emotional Problems? – By ter001

Friday, April 16th, 2010

As a child our parents are God to us. We worship the ground they walk on; they gave us life and keep us alive. A father shows his son what it is to be a man, a mother, to her daughter, a woman. And yet this same parent, the one we worship, can come to make us feel as though we are inadequate, stupid, weak and worthless. Significant others can do the same to some extent – but our parents are different; their genes are a part of us, their behaviour toward us strikes at our very existence, our inner-self, our being and we cannot feel any way toward them without feeling the same about part of our self.

Throughout recent history, there have been changes in thinking about the influence of parents on their children. Parents have gone from being fully responsible or having no responsibility at all to a middle ground, where other things, such as peers, school, society, and media play a major part. And they do, but nothing influences us like our parents; their genes are our genes and from the day we are born we are shaped by their beliefs, attitudes and behaviours, we are moulded by their hopes and fears and many people, well into their middle age, are still trying to please their parents and gain their love.

In her excellent self-help book about depression, Alexandra Massey estimates that around 80% of people that she has spoken to about depression are entangled with their parents and stuck. And research has shown an improvement in the phobic behaviour of adolescents when relationships with their parents improved.

Human infants are the most helpless of all the mammals when newborn; immediately after being born we cry in order to be comforted and we come equipped with a number of instinctual behaviours to form strong attachments to those who can protect and nurture us. As we grow this attachment grows to ensure our safety.

As such, the power of our parents is unquestionable. They are big and strong, we are small and weak. They can do things we can’t: drive a car, mow the lawn, drink beer and change a light bulb – and they teach us how to do things; things that empower us, like how to ride a bicycle and how to swim and the meaning of things. Their knowledge and power shapes our sense of competence, what we can and cannot do, and our confidence. They feed, clothe us and keep us warm. They can do things we can’t and know things that we don’t; they must be right and we must be wrong.
They make us feel good and make us feel bad; almost all of the rewards and punishments that a child receives are mediated by the parents. They hurt us and they help us get better. To top it off, we cannot avoid them. Even as a small child, certainly as a teenager, if someone was nasty to us or treated us badly we would soon learn to avoid them – but we can’t do this with parents.

Every child faces this situation, totally dependent on their parents who are so powerful and sometimes so rewarding, trying to deal with mixed up feelings about their parents and themselves. What we do next is something that strengthens the parent-child bond (for good or bad) – we start to identify with our parents, an identification which, positive or negative, can affect us for the rest of our lives.

Please note that the purpose of this article is not to blame, judge or denigrate our parents. Not to justify anger, resentment or hate, for in doing this – something that plays a large part in most people’s emotional problems – we only hurt and damage ourselves. The purpose of this article is to understand what happens and why: the power that parents have and how, for many people, this power determines how they come to feel about themselves, their confidence and for many, their whole emotional life.

And once we begin to understand how we learn to feel about ourselves and its connection with emotional problems, anxiety disorders and depression, there are things we can do to cure these problems completely.

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By Terry Dixon, founder of http://www.help-for.com and author of EVOLVING SELF CONFIDENCE: How to Become Free from Anxiety Disorders and Depression.

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