Stress Management And The Art Of Being - By: Chris Hammer

I sat down to write this article today and I experienced a bit of a block - which ironically caused me some stress. And as I struggled with how to formulate the topic, I began to think about the process of writing itself, and how it might feel to actually 'be a writer' - to derive great natural enjoyment from being immersed in the process; easily getting into a state of 'flow'. As I pondered on this I just began to type my thoughts about it (which I've actually saved elsewhere, likely to become the base of another article).

What was interesting thing to me, though, is that what I wrote actually seemed to 'pour out of me' as I was imagining and describing the process of spontaneous writing. In other words, I found myself in a 'state of flow' as I imagined what a state of flow might be like. The process wasn't my typical labored, "type-backspace-retype-cut-and-paste-until-I'm-happy" method. And there was no stress involved.

So my original intent for this article was to highlight the virtues of learning to "just be" sometimes, as opposed to always having to "do" - but through this process I realized that 'being' and 'doing' aren't necessarily exclusive ideas. And so the understanding I'd like to share is this:

The first piece is that it is important to learn to just 'be' sometimes (if we don't normally make the effort to do so). We can easily get caught up in all the things we need to do, and rationalize to ourselves and others why we can't take a break. Granted, there are certainly times when it's not realistic to stop what we're doing - but how often do we fool ourselves into thinking that this is always the case? It helps to examine our assumptions about this, and ask ourselves if things really will fall apart if we just stop for awhile.

We can also ask ourselves honestly if there are other reasons for our perpetual motion: perhaps it's uncomfortable to be alone with our thoughts. Or perhaps we feel a sense of guilt when we're not contributing. Or maybe we simply haven't learned to be any other way. The point is that we need to reexamine where we can give ourselves the time and space sometimes to regenerate and just contemplate about nothing - and learn to trust that it's okay to do so.

The second thought is that if you truly are a "doer" (and you've established that you're not avoiding anything or perpetuating any false rationalizations by always "doing"), then perhaps try doing more things from a state of 'just being' - in other words, where you can experience that sense of flow. Try doing something with your family just for the sake of spending time: really 'being there' with them without ruminating over the tasks you have to accomplish. Go for a run and 'get lost in your thoughts' along the way. Hit the highway for a day-trip to nowhere. Write something just for fun...

About the Author

Chris Hammer, Ph.D. is a certified professional coach and licensed psychologist. He offers leadership and life coaching services, as well as various coaching ebooks for people who are passionate about their personal and professional growth. http://www.mycoachingbooks.com

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