MLM Success: How To Create A Magical Connection With Your Prospect - By: Tim Sales, MLM Training Expert

Have you ever been sitting in a restaurant talking with someone, and the two of you are so engaged in conversation that it is as though you are the only two people in the restaurant? Better yet, the only two people on the Planet?

How about...

"We're just on the same wavelength" or "I feel like I've known you all my life," these are phrases that are typically stated when people are trying to describe this magical connection.

Could all of these have a common denominator? I believe so. It's that two (or more) people are talking with the same assertiveness level. The word assertive means: the force a person uses to make their opinion known.

This is where art and finesse come into my otherwise systematic approach. So when you're presenting your product or your company, how forcefully you communicate to your prospect is what I'm referring to with "your assertiveness level."

In another way of looking at this, picture that you have infinite volume in your voice, and you get to choose how loud your voice will be when you tell your prospect about your company; this is your assertiveness level. If you scream, you will probably be using too much assertiveness. If you whisper, you probably won't be using enough assertiveness.

If I were to blame only one thing for the less-than-perfect reputation of multi-level marketing and network marketing, I would blame using too much assertiveness. This subject begs to be understood. I explained a small portion in "Professional Inviter," but as a presenter, you need more skills to complement your MLM training.

Some people can handle a lot of assertiveness being pushed their way and some cannot! What happens when someone cannot handle much assertiveness? They back away and withdraw from you. What happens when your assertiveness level is not enough for the prospect? They will be bored with you, as you lack the conviction they require, and they'll walk away from you. Therefore, it is critical that your assertiveness level be approximately the same as the level of your prospect (s).

There are several methods or strategies that can be used to raise or lower your assertiveness towards another person. As I go through this list, keep in mind that I'm teaching you this from two different perspectives:

1. I want you to see how you can raise or lower your assertiveness.

2. The second reason I'm teaching this to you is for you to be able to tell what level of assertiveness your prospect is at.

Here are some of the main methods you can use to adjust your assertiveness level:

VOICE VOLUME

If you speak very loudly, you can easily be too assertive. Speaking very softly, that is, not quite heard by your prospect, will result in your using too little assertiveness. Neither of these are optimum.

BODY LANGUAGE

Your body language includes how you stand or sit. The closer you stand to the prospect, the more assertiveness you are using. The further away you stand from the prospect: the less assertive you are. Shoulders squared to the prospect: more assertive. Talk with your hands: more assertive. Lean back when you talk: less assertive, and even the color of your suit makes you more or less assertive!

FACIAL EXPRESSION

A strong face with head tilted up with no smile will have more assertiveness than a cowardly look with head tilted down. We all know how to look mean, angry, happy, sad or surprised; we all know these emotions we wear on our faces...well, each of these contributes to your assertiveness level.

DIRECT OR DISPERSED WORDS

This has to do with the aggregate number of words you use to say something. If someone asks you a question and you reply, "NO," it's much more assertive than if you were to answer, "Well I see your point but I've not really seen that over the long term." Your answer is the same: no. But the assertiveness level is reduced or dispersed.

REPETITION

Repetition is the number of times you repeat something or the frequency with which you repeat something in a given time frame.

Hopefully you can see that there are several things that go into having or using the right amount of assertiveness.

Respectfully,

Tim Sales

For more in-depth information on the above topic, and to assist you in your MLM training to become a Master presenter and inviter, get the Professional Inviter lecture series by Tim Sales at the FirstClassMLMTools website.

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