India’s journey from arranged marriages to love marriages - By: Gurleen Kaur

Life lived in love, will never be dull, a famous quote which describes the meaning of life in a very loving way. We usually get to hear, we get life only once, so live life to the fullest. Life is in itself is a journey, in which we all go through four different stages of life. From being an infant to childhood, then from being a young, lovable teenager to a mature adult, from being a son to son- in- law and then finally till being a father- in- law. Every relation requires a lot of love and understanding. In our life we get to make a number of bonds, but, one bond, which remains forever, is the bond of marriage. Wedding is a ceremony, which has from ages been witnessed as the purest of all bonds, shared between two human beings.

Earlier the couple use to marry first, and then eventually they used to fall in love. But, now the times have changed and era has come where loves comes first, making marriage take a backseat. Today, it is very important for the bride and the groom to know each other, before tying the knot of marriage. the times are gone, when the Indian brides and grooms used to see each other’s faces after their marriage, and were asked to live their whole life with that person, whether they like it or not. There were hardly any love marriages practised in our grandfather’s time.

Our country has always been given the status of a backward region, where people have orthodox thinking and are not willing to accept and understand the bond of love. The parents have always been so rigid in their thinking and perceptions related to love marriage. In fact inter- caste and love marriages were considered a crime and children were strictly not allowed to do wedding out of their religion or caste. Even a girl talking to a boy was also considered cheap. The mentality was such that girls were not even sent out of their houses and if they wanted to study then they used to be a part of the separate school or college for women education. In some cases, if out of revolution a couple belonging to different caste marries each other, then they used to be murdered. Such heinous crime was considered marrying a bride or groom from different caste in Indian marriages.

But now, slowly and steadily the people are getting more open to love marriages and they are understanding and happily accepting their children’s choices as their son- in- law or daughter- in- law. The parents have started understanding the emotions of their children and accepting their love bonds. This ways they are also giving them the right to take the most important decision of their life, i.e. choosing a life partner for themselves. Inter- caste Indian weddings are slowly but setting examples for the rigid thinking of the other people of the country and for those belonging to other countries, to change their mindsets in regard to love marriages.

The journey from arranged marriages to love marriages in India has really been tough. But it is in fact a true achievement for youngsters, who have finally got the right to live life their own way. But, still there are many families in the country who consider love marriage as a crime. They really need to understand that marriage is a very important decision in their children’s life, the right of which should be given to the child himself. Because at the marriageable age a child is mature enough to decide what is good and what is bad for him. Imposing the family decision on children is just not the right thing to do, so the child should be free to choose the life partner for himself and lead a happy married life with the person he loves and understands the most.

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About the Author

Gurleen Kaur writes on behalf of Jeevansathi.com, which is India’s fastest growing matrimonial website, provides online Indian matrimonial classified services. Jeevansathi.com enables users to create an Indian matrimony profile on the website and allow prospective grooms and brides to contact each other. Users can search for profiles through advanced search options on the website. Users can avail free registration

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