How to Save a Failing Marriage When You Are Facing a Divorce - By: RP Smith

Divorce is difficult enough when both spouses are in favor of it. It can be an overwhelmingly devastating experience though for the spouse who didn't see it coming or doesn't want it to happen. If you want to know how to save a failing marriage when you are facing divorce, then you will need to take action now!

Are you doing the right things to save your marriage? Or are you like many people, who, despite their best and most sincere efforts, are actually driving their spouses further away? Truth is, very few people really know what it takes to save a marriage when they are facing a divorce that they don't want.

I speak from experience on this very subject. I was once faced with a divorce and never saw it coming. My wife and I were talking one afternoon and she informed me that she believed the marriage was over and had decided to file for divorce. Words cannot describe the hurt and fear I felt. I was completely unprepared to handle news like this and to be honest I didn't have the slightest idea what to do!

I then proceeded to make a series of critical errors which I later learned are the typical responses that people facing an unwanted divorce make. They turned out to be basically the complete opposite of what I should have been doing! The net effect was to push my wife further away, despite my sincere and passionate attempt to save my marriage. It was awful!

Then something happened to us that was nothing short of a miracle and it would change our lives forever. It wasn't rocket science, but it involved my willingness to admit that I was going about saving my marriage in the wrong way, that I must be willing to accept the right kind of help, I must get myself in a more resourceful state and I must be willing to take action!

I learned that to save a failing marriage when my spouse wasn't interested in saving the marriage would involve a series of steps that would turn conventional counseling upside down, but that it had worked for nearly 90% of the couples who had tried it, versus the 20% success rate of traditional counseling.

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