How to Get the Help You Need - By: Linda Greven

Are You Afraid to ask for Help?

As a member of two MasterMind Alliance groups, I was invited to talk with my good friend Teresia about this topic.

That interview has been recorded and you can request a copy of it by sending me a quick e-mail.

One of the things we talked about during that interview is the benefits of being part of any MMA. In my experience, there are a number of benefits. But the one I'd like to discuss today is the Personal Growth that can happen for an individual.

Personal Growth is, by its very nature, personal.

So what it looks like for you, might be very different than the way it shows up in my life.

The stuff each of us needs to work on is highly personal.

In my case, one of the things that was a personal challenge was my fear of asking for help.

That's really silly, because -- for those of you who know me -- I teach about how women innately love and support one another. It's a concept I truly believe, and in fact, I'm co-authoring a book on that very subject.

So I have to ask myself why I was afraid of asking for help.

In order to better understand this, let me go back a couple of years.

I attended a seminar called 'Sacred Gifts' given by my friend Monique. In that weekend event, I learned about all the different Sacred Gifts that we have. And I learned about my own gifts. This was really an eye-opening workshop because I discovered that there were certain gifts I was given, and there were others that I wasn't given. Well, if I wasn't given the gift, I couldn't very well be good at it, could I?

So, this workshop freed me up to stop focusing on the things I couldn't do, and start putting my energy into using the gifts I HAD been given.

Fast forward now to the present.

So here I was with a challenge facing me -- it was a business I had hoped to invest in and was pretty excited about. But I didn't have the first idea how to determine the soundness of this investment. It was making me crazy actually. My brain was trying to imagine all the what-ifs, the downsides, the upsides, and frankly -- I was not getting much sleep.

I raised this in one of my MMA phone calls. One of the lovely ladies in the group immediately piped up and offered some assistance; she had several accountant friends who she thought might help, and she promised to get in touch with them for me.

I was stunned!

Just like that?

Could it be that easy?

Of course, she proferred! This wasn't like work to her; she had no fear around asking her friends to support me. And why should she? They were her friends and she knew that her friends would be there when she needed them.

So why had it been difficult for me? What was I afraid of?

At first, I didn't know the answer to that question. But then I remembered my sacred gifts. When someone asked me to perform a task that used one of my gifts, I'd be the first one to step up and say 'Yes'. I realized that just because something was tough for me didn't mean it would be a challenge for others.

What a relief! And what a fantastic discovery! My mind started racing -- just think of the possibilities.

Now, when there would be something difficult for me, I could ask for help. And I didn't need to worry that my request would be turned down.

If something needed to be done and I couldn't do it, all I needed to do was find someone who could. That's where my MMA has come into play -- time and again, they have been there for me. If they didn't have the knowledge or the wherewithall to help, they'd recommend someone who could. And, more importantly, would.

Now I spend much less time fretting about the stuff I can't do. I just ask for help. And I usually get the help I need. And I have far more time to do the things that are fun for me, more time for play, for relaxation. And I don't feel guilty about it, because the person who is doing it for me loves doing it.

How cool is that?!?

About the Author

Linda has been coaching and counseling women for over 5 years. Her clients report a higher quality of life, experiencing better balance between their work and their play. For a free counseling session visit http://www.fun-wey.com/sample.html

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