HOW TO GAIN SELF- CONFIDENCE - By: markbor

The gaining of self-confidence and courage and the ability to think calmly and clearly while talking to a group is not one-tenth as difficult as most people imagine. It is not a gift bestowed by providence on only a few rarely endowed individuals. It is like the ability to play golf. Anyone can develop his own latent capacity if he has sufficient desire to do so.

Is there any reason why you should not be able to think as well as in a perpendicular position before an audience as you can when sitting down? Surely you know there is not. In fact, you ought to think better when facing a group. Their presence ought to stir you and lift you. A great many speakers will tell you that the presence of an audience is a stimulus, an inspiration that drives their brains to function more clearly, more keenly. At such times, thoughts, facts, ideas that they not know they possessed come drifting in.

That ought to be your experience. It probably will be if you practice and persevere. Of this much, however, you may be absolutely sure. Training and practice will wear away your audience fright and give you self-confidence and abiding courage.

Do not imagine that your case is unusually difficult. Even those who afterward became the most eloquent representative of their generation were, at the onset of their career afflicted by this blinding fear and self-consciousness.

There Is a certain responsibility In making a talk, even if it is to only a dozen people, a certain strain, a certain shock, a certain excitement. The immortal Cecero said, “Every public speaking of real merit was characterized by nervousness.” “Microphone fright” it is called. Some people, no matter how often they speak, always experience this self-consciousness just before they commence, but in a few seconds after they have got to their feet, it disappears.

At first you might be awkward and seems a real labour to adjust yourself. You might struggle for a time under a feeling of apparent diffidence and sensitiveness and these may add to awkwardness, but this will be only for a short time. In a few moments you will regain your composure and warmth and earnestness and your real speech will begin. All it takes is practice.

Think of the benefits it will bring you. Therefore arouse your enthusiasms for this self-study. Enumerate its benefits. Think of what additional self-confidence and ability to speak more convincingly in public will mean to you. Think of what it may mean and what it ought to mean in dollar and cents

Think of what it may mean to you socially; of friends it will bring; of leadership it will give you and of the increase of your personal influence.

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