Good Marriages are Based On Love And Respect, So Get Yours Back - By: Diana Onedge

Good marriages are based on love and respect. That goes without saying, right? Almost everyone knows that love and respect are the most important ingredients to a good marriage. But beyond love and respect there are some things that can help your marriage greatly.

Remember when you were first married. If you have been married for just a short time, think back to when you first met and dating. How did you treat your partner? You most likely treated your partner with a great deal of respect, kindness and thoughtfulness.

As difficult as it sounds it is common that the longer we know someone, the less thoughtful and kind we are with him or her. Most people would think that the opposite is true. But we start to take the other person for granted and think they will understand us always be there with us.

Think of the last time you went to the bank or grocery store and spoke to the cashier. Maybe you exchanged words with a stranger. How was the tone of your voice and your words? You probably sounded very nice and kind hearted. That person most likely thought you were nice and polite when you walked away.

Take a moment now think about the words and the tone of the voice you use with your spouse at times. When you get angry or you are upset about something, think about how you sound. Would you ever speak that way to a stranger? If you're thinking "more than likely no" then you have begun taking advantage of your spouse even if you don't mean to.

Many people do it with trusted friends, parents and children. If we could record people's conversations and play them back at a different time, people might be ashamed of how they sounded and acted toward their loved ones. They probably wouldn't speak that way to someone they didn't know well for fear of hurting their feelings!

Good marriages are kind and respectful ones. Almost everyone gets angry from time to time and says things he or she is sorry for in an angry and disrespectful tone of voice. But you can keep these instances to a minimum by just thinking about whether you would talk to a stranger or your boss that way.

Thoughtfulness is also an important ingredient in a good marriage. People love their spouses, but it seems the longer they are together, they less they sometimes show it. Your spouse is one person you should make a point of being thoughtful and kind toward.

In the beginning when you are first dating someone or first married, you might send flowers, cards and little surprises. Generally after people are married for a while, these sorts of things slow down or stop. Remembering to be thoughtful and surprise your spouse can help make yours one of the good marriages based on love and respect.

Remember that marriage is not carved in stone. There really are other opportunities out there for your spouse. Bring back some of the things you did and said when you were trying to marry this person. Be kind and thoughtful as much as you can. Those combined with love and respect will make yours one of the long lasting and happy marriages.

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