Giving The Best Man Toasts - Can You Cope With The Responsibility? - By: John Reece

Giving the best man toasts at your friend's wedding is an honor of the highest class. It is the kind of esteem that requires you to dig deep into your friendship to pull out something witty, yet insightful, about the ceremony at hand. However, it is also the type of honorary position that carries enough weight to send your nerves straight into shock mode. If you are not a gifted speaker or writer, you may find yourself worrying more than the bride and groom as the wedding day looms closer. Getting up in front of a crowd and showering them with personal sentiments and public humor can be a bit tough; but with proper preparation, and a touch of heart, the best man toasts will surely warrant applause from your audience.

In order to give your friend a proper best man toast to send him off into married life, you should make sure to take a few days to write down notes as they come to you. During this note taking process let your ideas breath naturally. The last thing you want is to make a lengthy, clichéd speech that doesn't get a reaction out of the crowd. Just spend a few days thinking about your friendship, and writing down memories, feelings, thoughts, etc, as they come to mind. This will help to lubricate the gears in your mind and make for a more natural, free flowing toast.

Some key points to cover in your speech include how did the bride and groom meet? Can you think of any ironic instances that can be worked into the speech? Elaborate on the emotional love aspect to remind everyone of the simple beauty within the union of two kindred spirits. Also, write down descriptions of both bride and groom, like what their hobbies are, how they are alike, how they differ, etc. Give your own slapstick take on marriage by offering up some advice that both amuses and actually helps. Remember, this is a celebratory event, and humor will help to even out the mood and keep it light. Just don't get too obscure, or vulgar, or your best man toasts will not go down well!

After awhile of thinking about some of these key aspects of the speech, you can begin to formulate it down into a brief, conversational speech. Your introduction should consist of introducing yourself, and how you know the bride and groom. Keep it short, as you don’t want to bore the guests. The best wedding toasts are those that utilize humor and feel like you are actually having a conversation with the audience. To this end, call out a few names of people in attendance - the parents of the bride and groom, for example. Use well-known quotes from history to hammer in the credibility of your best man toasts. For instance, Rita Rudner once said, "I love being married, it's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life".

While the content is definitely important, so is the tone that you use to speak in. Make sure that you speak loud and clear for everyone in the audience to hear. Also, use hand gestures, try not to appear so stiff - don't forget it's a wedding and weddings should be a fun and happy occasion! To get prepared prior to the best man toasts try a few stretches to loosen you up, make sure not to drink too much and try to imagine you are speaking to a few good friends instead of a room full of people.

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John Reece is the owner of BestManToastsSpeeches.com It is an excellent resource for best man information, with many tips and ideas to help you with your best man toasts, bachelor party planning and numerous other best man responsibilities. Click on Best Man Toasts if you would like to learn more.

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