Finding A Match - Be Clear What Works - By: Chandra Alexander

Are you looking for your match and not quite sure how to find it? Here's what to look for and the clues and questions to ask yourself:

1. You learn what you want by knowing what you don’t want.

-We never wake up one day and know exactly what we want. Everyone learns through a process of elimination.

-We usually go in through the back door, figuring out all the things we don’t like. “Not this, not this”, we say all the while moving closer to what works for us

-If you don't feel "clearer" as to what works for you, you are doing something wrong.

2. You will attract to you who you are.

-You will automatically attract a match for your vibration.

-If you don’t like what your are attracting, stop and take a look at yourself. Take responsibility for "pulling" the wrong kind of person for you.

-Stop until you can honestly reassess and know you have broken that dysfunctional pattern.

3. There is never a “right” time to say what you feel. Speak up - share feelings and ask questions.

-Right now is the right time. There is never a right time not to be nervous.
-We all get nervous when we put our feelings on the line.

-When you try to figure out when the right time is, you lose important time, time that belongs to you.

-Be dignified, treat the other the same way you would want to be treated, take a deep breath and speak your feelings.

4. Unless you learn from your mistakes, you will keep repeating what doesn’t work.

-There is no end to the number of times you can make the same mistakes.

-You will be old and not look good in your clothes if you don’t learn from your mistakes.

-Grow old gracefully and do things differently.

5. Ask yourself, "Do I feel comfortable being "me" in this relationship?'

-Do you feel accepted - as a work in progress?

-Do you feel comfortable in your own skin when you are with your partner?

-Can you laugh at yourself?

About the Author

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