Failure to Detach - By: LaMont Campbell

Failure to Detach
From the nipple to the bottle, is a statement that has been used to describe an individual that has always depended from infancy to adulthood, a bottle to nurture them. So how do we describe an individual who has always looked for someone else to provide for them? From the nipple to the nipple? This description fits men and women. It is not prejudiced of race, age, gender or religion. We all know or have a family member or friend that has refused to let go of momma’s apron string. If not dependent on mom or pop they are dependent on sister, brother, lover or spouse. The point is they refuse to take responsibility for themselves. Why do we continue to enable this behavior? We are only doing them a disservice. To never be responsible for yourself, stunts your growth. Not only does it stunt your growth, it allows bad values, low self esteem, and disrespect for others to grow. No one deserves that.
So the question is how we can change this? Simple, stop enabling them. Is that enough to change them, I doubt it. The change has to start from within. By no longer enabling the situation, it forces action on their behalf. When they can no longer depend on others it forces them to depend on themselves. A lot of times, it brings about bitterness, a feeling of betrayal and resentment. The energy it generates, may start with “I will show them”. Little do they know the seed of responsibility sprouts. By forcing them to care for themselves, responsibility can grow. We do a great service for our fellow person when we become an active part of the ingredients that gets them to empowerment. Allowing them to become responsible for themselves allows them to grow. When you gain independence, you develop a sense of esteem. There is nothing like feeling, you have a sense of self. That’s empowerment.
When we choose to become a part of the solution and not just allow bad values, bad ideas, bad habits and the like to become the standard we choose empowerment. At that point we choose a better way for everyone. Change is not going to happen easily. There has to first be a willingness to let go of the nipple. Forcing their hand is crucial, but it still has to be some willingness to change, forced or not. The bottom line is no longer, can we allow “nipple to the nipple” to exist. Empowerment starts from within. What you would want for yourself, be willing to want that for others.
Formal education will make you a living; self education will make you a fortune. Letting go of the apron string gives you an advantage you didn’t have before. The hard work involved in making these changes alone, will help to appreciate your self worth. The key here is to let go of the apron string and be the person God intended you to be. No more restraints on your life. Your life is now dependent on you and no one else. You know what you need to do, you just need to decide if you are willing to do it. It’s time to let go.

About the Author

LaMont Campbell born St. Louis, MO has sought to mentor and motivate the underserved communities throughout the St.Louis metropolitan area for the last 5 years. Founder of Stl Empowerment Group Inc, formed to assist the disempowered by offering assistance from building empowerment through linking with Social Services organization that serves the particular needs of individuals and groups.

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