Don't Let Your Large Size Keep You From Enjoyment - By: Pat Matson

Summertime is for easy living. No snow to shovel. No howling winds to brace against. No fields to harvest. It's when Mother Nature takes a break for living easily herself and I think we should, too.

This article is written for the large woman (or the woman who sees herself as too large) with practical tips for self-love and self-acceptance. I'd like to pack a picnic lunch of tasty ideas about the "I" of you - that inner self who knows nothing about bodily size but instead focuses on character traits.

A lot of showing off of our bodies happens in the summertime, doesn't it? Young girls strip down to bikinis and strut themselves on the beach. Shorts and halters and sundresses become the norm. Men are lucky and get to go around only wearing trunks. How do you feel inside of clothing that exposes more of your body?

In order to permit yourself not to go through the summer uncomfortably trying to cover up what you don't like about your appearance, I'd like to take some ideas out of that picnic basket for you to consider about your deservedness:

* Do you deserve to be as comfortable as everyone else?

* Do you deserve to wear a bathing suit publically on the beach?

* Do you deserve to hear no nasty comments about your appearance when you do?

* Do you deserve to dress as you please?

* Should there be different rules for slender women and for fat women?

* Do you deserve equality? Seriously, DO you?

Since we are all created equal, then yes, every single one of us deserves to dress comfortably; wear a bathing suit in public; have no derogatory words thrown at us; dress as we please; all follow the same rules and live harmoniously under the same equality we see slender women receiving.

The magnificence of the individuality called by your name is true of every individual with a name and it has nothing to do with your size. It has only to do with your Be-ing. In order to understand this magnificence, I'd like to encourage you to teach yourself to stop judging by appearances (your own included) and begin to judge by the Divine Stuff from which each one of us is endowed at birth.

Inside you, there is a complete set of faculties, abilities and virtues. I personally think it'd be hilarious if God said "Give the fat girl a few less abilities seeing how evil fat is." Doesn't it sound ridiculous said like that? Well, 'all born equal' is true, so let's look at what 'born equal' means.

Every one of us can hear, can see, can touch, can taste, can smell, can reason and can understand. If any one thinks he cannot enjoy one of these, he has made a mistake and mistakes can be corrected. Every faculty has an accompanying ability. Because you were born with the faculty of hearing, you also have the ability to listen or hear. With the faculty of touch you have the ability to feel, and so on for the rest of them.

Each of us has a complete set of virtues. Now those virtues are wrapped up as tightly as young fiddlehead ferns and have to be unfolded by you through learning to use them. When you were a child, did you have much courage unfolded. Has it unfolded more clearly to you since you were in preschool? I would hope so. And it will continue to unfold more of itself as you use it and strengthen it through that use.

At some point in the unfoldment of your Self, you'll identify yourself with how well you can use your virtues and not what you look like in summer clothing?" My wish for you is that you become completely comfortable with the inner you and all the wonders of her virtues. Perhaps living through this summer will help you to unfold this sense of comfort.

I was once sun bathing at the beach when three, young surfers came out of the water, walked past me and one of them said "Oh look, it's a beached whale." I was a lot younger then and a lot smaller than I am now. I'd like to thank those surfers because they created an opportunity to learn how to reason, to dig for the truth about myself, and to exercise forgiveness for their inappropriate stupidity. I wouldn't wish any of you this experience but it did end up tasting like lemonade, a perfect accompaniment for a summertime picnic. Self love and self acceptance is worth all the work it took to get here.

About the Author

Pat Matson, the Wise Weight Woman, uses spiritual principles to help women overcome their fixation with body image. From her education, her experiences, the lessons Life has taught her, and her deep-seated sense of spirituality, Pat's passion is to help women learn self love. For more tips to help you achieve self-acceptance, get her free report, You Are Good and Perfect Right Now and I Can Prove It! at http://www.theworldofwithin.com

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