Do You Have To Be Right? - By: Chandra Alexander

Do you have to be right all the time? Isn’t it exhausting? It took me a long time to figure out, but I prefer feeling right to being right.

1. Feeling right is always better than being right.

* How many times have you been right but felt lousy afterward? You’ve proved your point, gotten the other person to agree with you; you should be feeling great, but you don’t.
* Giving up the need to always be right is the beginning of having a loving relationship.
* Feeling connected is what it’s all about, not being right.

2. Feeling good about being right is always short-lived.

* The immediate boost from being right is always short-lived.
* This is about the ego: a momentary conquest that has no legs and will not go the distance.
* The minute the momentum of victory has worn off you will feel isolated and alone.

3. Having to be right pushes people away and is unattractive.

* There is something very unappealing about a person who's sense of self is based on having to be right.
* When you are secure, you do not need anyone to agree with you about anything.
* Can you feel good about something being right for you even though it may not be right for someone else?

4. Having to be right is always about insecurity.

* When you need another person to agree with your point of view and you can’t “feel good” unless they do, your sense of self is very fragile.
* Do not confuse having the right facts with your sense of entitlement to be right.
* Pushing someone to see it your way is manipulative and unattractive.
* Insecurity pushes people away – the same people you want to be close to.

5. Having to be right takes a lot of work.

* This is exhausting work.
* Having to be right means that you are ultimately invested in another person seeing things your way. Why?
* So what if someone sees it differently than you do. What difference does it make?

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