Dealing With People - By: Patric Kavetoa

There is only one way under heaven,to get anybody to do anything.Did you ever think about that?That is by making the other person want to do it.Of course,you can make someone hand over their watch or wallet, by sticking a gun in their ribs, or an employer forcing his/her employees to cooperate - by threating to fire them.Even a child will do as he/she is told with a threat or whip.But with these crude methods come undesireable reprecussions.Only by giving you what you want,will you do as I ask, TRUE?What do you want?Sigmund Freud said that everything you or I do,springs from two motives:The Sex urge,and the desire to be great!Dr John Dewey another profound philosopher,phrased it "The Deepest urge in Human nature is the desire to be important","IMPORTANT"What do you want?Not many things,but the few things you do wish, you crave.These things include:Health and fitnessFoodSleepMoney and the things money BuysLife after DeathSexual GratificationThe Well being of our childrenThe feeling of importanceAlmost all of these wants are usually gratified except one.Its almost as deep as the desire for food or sleep - "The Desire to be Important"Lincoln started a letter saying "Everybody likes a compliment!"William James said "The Deepest Principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated",He didn’t speak,mind you,of the "wish" or the "desire" to be appreciated. A great man once said "I consider my ability to arouse enthusiasm among people". The Greatest asset I possess,and the way to develop the best that is in a person, is by appreciation and encouragement."There is nothing else that so kills the ambitions of a person as criticisms from superiors. I never criticize anyone,and try to give a person incentive to work.Some readers are saying that they have heard it all before,FLATTERY! You’ve tried it all and it doesn’t work - at lest not for intelligent people.And you would be right, flattery seldom works,with discerning people.Flattery is shallow,insincere,and selfish.The Difference between Appreciation and Flattery?Easy! One is sincere,the other is insincere,One comes from the heart,the other from the teeth,if all we had to do was flatter,everyone would catch on,and we would all be experts in Human relations.Flattery is easy,but appreciation on the hand takes time.Principle #2Always Give Honest and Sincere Appreciation

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Patric Kavetoa helps and mentors those looking to makemoneyonline with digital products.Start your own online business at http://www.the22ndfloor.com

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