Consistency: Do You Both Oversee Your Kids' Homework? - By: Len Stauffenger

Are you the supervisor of your kid's homework tasks? You know then about children coming first and sometimes this supervision can be challenging. So what happens when they visit their other parent and they have homework? If the two of you create consistency, their other parent should become the homework supervisor for that weekend.

Children know when their parents are consistent and in agreement. While they might grouse at the time in the face of consistency or agreement, in the long run they will appreciate it. So if it is at all possible, work to communicate standards back and forth between you and your ex and then let the kids know that you support one another. I cannot think of one thing that drove me up the walls as a kid when I tried to "work" my parents was to hear either one of them say "What did your father / mother say?" I knew I'd had it and would not succeed at manipulating them to do what I wanted.

Homework is your children's 'work' and it should have the same attention as the work you do at your job. It is their job. Don't minimize their job in any way. Don't compare their life with yours. They don't appreciate if it was easier or harder back then. They only know 'now.'." It's their task today and honor that. Support one another and your child with standards like:

- Penmanship should be legible. Their homework should have a clean, tidy appearance.

- Homework should be complete. Don't let them do things by halves.

- Homework should be accurate. Read it over to be sure they're accurate.

Share homework duties. If one of the parents is better at a particular subject than the other, then that parent should help with that subject. Let the child know you are only a phone call away to help him figure out how to do that homework.

When your kids are visiting you and they have homework, establish a place and time for that to get done. Do the hardest homework first and then take a break. Your kids will appreciate your help with this, regardless of which parent is helping them.

As their custodial parent, your kids know it's about children coming first because you make them and their lives a priority since you've divorced. Your children will enjoy the continuity you create as well as learning that they are your priority and you love them when you place a high importance on them completing their homework. They deserve these comforts and they deserve to see homework, not as a curse, but as an accomplishment that both his parents support.

About the Author

Len Stauffenger's parents taught him life's simple wisdom. As a divorced dad, he wanted to share that simple wisdom with his girls. "Getting Over It: Wisdom for Divorced Parents", his book, is the solution. Len is a Reiki Master, an author, a Success Coach and an Attorney. http://www.wisdomfordivorcedparents.com

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