Are You Constantly Making Excuses? - By: Chandra Alexander

Do you hear yourself constantly making excuses every time you think about staying or leaving? Rationalizations (TRASHtionalizations) keep you stuck and keep you from having a real relationship.

1. Being with someone, anyone, is better than being alone.

-No it’s not!!! And anyone who says that is deathly afraid of being alone.
-Being with someone needs to ADD to your life. A lateral move won’t do either.
-Ask yourself, “Is my life better having this person in it?” “In this relationship, am I able to be the most that I can be?”

2. He’s not a good husband, but he’s a good father. She’s not a good wife, but she’s a good mother.

-Regardless of all the things a person may be good at – the question is: Are they good for you?
-If you are someone’s wife, then you need a husband, not just a good father for your children.
-Remember, kids grow up and leave.

3. I’d love to be turned on, but passion diminishes over time.

-No it doesn’t, not if you stay awake and aware and continue to grow.
-When you look for the other person to provide the passion in a relationship, you are missing the boat. If you want passion, you must be passion.
-What is more interesting than a person who loves life and greets each day as a new beginning – that is passion, and everyone can feel it!

4. I’m not happy, but I’ll just let some time pass and see what happens.

-Time doesn’t do anything but pass. It is a neutral backdrop on which we live our lives and has not inherent value other than to pass.
-Over time, things become more of what they already are. What’s good becomes better and what’s bad usually becomes worse.
-So…if you don’t like what you presently have, NOW is the time to make a change.

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