7 Smart Steps to a Smooth Divorce - By: Lily Woods

When decided to end your marriage, the divorce is not like what shown on TV and can be something you have never imagined. However, these few steps will guide you ahead for a smoother transition.

1. Become informed on all aspects of Divorce. Searching and reading various websites available on the internet is a good start. Read as much available documents or articles. Complicated subjects always deserve a second reading or third. Then, read your State Statutes on divorce, which are written in almost-plain English and are understandable to the average person. State Statutes can be found by typing in your state and word statutes in most search engines like Google. Add in related words like divorce or marriage.

2. Buy books or eBooks on Divorce. Divorce books are a good start and will give you better understanding. But they will not completely guide you as every state has different set of laws and requirements for divorce. So try looking for a divorce book that incorporates your state divorce laws. Check local bookstores or online bookstores. But be aware that laws change from time to time and books become quickly obsolete. Books should only act as a guide and general reading. Motivational books are good to keep you feel better and not alone in the struggle for divorce.

3. Be the bigger person during the divorce. Think like an adult and do not bicker. Cooperate with your spouse on arrangements for children. Do not waste, destroy, or hide assets which will lead you into another lawsuit. You will be happier, more relaxed, and less destructive to your family and children. Most important of all, the spouse who became the bigger person always does better in a divorce trial.

4. Use your understanding and knowledge of your spouse. Try to imagine what is going through your spouse's mind. Make an educated guess and write down what sort of outcomes your spouse might pick. Come up with a best and worst outcome that you imagine your spouse would come up with.

5. With four or five possible outcomes on paper. It always good to prepare for the worst. Using that information, see if you can work out a combination of give and take that is both good for you and your spouse. The list doesn't need to be perfect but you should try your best in order to have a powerful plan that will help you in negotiations later.

6. Take active role in your divorce. Once decided, there is no point turning back, actively negotiate a peaceful settlement. Don't use destructive techniques. They only look bad for you at trial time. And never be afraid to ask questions, to your attorney, to your spouses' attorney. This is your divorce and you have all the rights to know the result. The well-informed person will always come out ahead.

7. Last, understand every word printed on legal papers and pleadings. Make sure you understand before you sign a document. Look up definitions in books, or ask your attorney or other experienced people. Don't assume anything when you do not understand. This is your life and you should treat this situation like it is the most important event of your life.

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