4 Steps to a Successful Marriage Argument - By: Stephanie Lopez

When you get engaged people feel free to share any and all advice that they have received. Most of it you have probably heard already. Maybe there is something to be said for repetitious advice; it works! Although most marriages start honky dory there eventually will be a glitch; some sort of argument or disagreement. It is normal and it wouldn't be normal if it never happened. There are 4 keys to a successful marriage argument.

1. Don't go to bed mad!
This seems to be the advice that many will give to newlyweds but it is truly healthy advice. Who wants to go to sleep in the anger of an argument and wake up only to hash it out all over again? Better yet, wake up and play the silent treatment. These bad feelings should never linger and especially not overnight. If things are so tense and there is no solution in sight and sleep is a must at least agree to disagree and set a time to talk things out at a later date. Whatever the case may be, toss the ill feelings out the window. Perhaps some overnight spooning will solve all the woes.

2. Don't be too stubborn to say sorry!
Though I am a firm believer in only having a sincere and heartfelt apology it is important to say sorry. In almost any argument there is some reason why both parties will have a reason to say sorry. Remember to say sorry for your own actions and not the other person's. There is no need to fuel an almost burnt out fire. Try to stay calm during the discussion and think about what you want to say. No one makes you feel or do anything; you are the only controller of you and your feelings. It's amazing how when one person is ready to have a solution and mend the issues that the other is normally on board.

3. Keep it to yourself!
It may seem tempting to run to a friend or a parent to discuss the argument or disagreement, but do yourselves a favor and avoid the temptation. The problem is; once you solve the issue the person you have talked to is not involved in the resolution and may continue to hold ill feelings toward your spouse. You're big kids now.... Handle it and work it out yourselves.

4. Continue to date your spouse!
The same way that you got ready for your spouse while dating should be pretty close to the same way you do when you're married. I say pretty close because, it is unrealistic to stay perfectly put-together and romantic at all times, but try to make your spouse feel special. They will notice when you make the effort to take care of yourself and look nice. You may be able to go to the gym together; spending quality time together while taking care of yourselves. Try to go on a date at least once a week to keep the spark alive. Think about how hard you work and compromise during your dating relationship. Work that hard and harder to keep your marriage blissful.

Can you believe it? There is a right and wrong way to disagree; and it's OK to do it. In any case that there should be a disagreement remember the steps to a successful marriage argument and before you know it you'll be back to being birds of a feather.

Copyright (c) 2010 Stephanie Lopez

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